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How are the following things connected?
1) Four Horsemen 2) Divorce
Extra bonus point if you can name which of the horsemen is the worst?
I will provide the answer tomorrow.
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4. Contempt
Contempt is the most dangerous of all of the four horsemen.
At minimum, it is very mean, and at worst, it becomes emotional
abuse.
According to Gottman's research,
contempt has shown to be the biggest indicator of divorce.
It also has been connected to health issues for the partner the contempt is directed toward, including a lower immune system.
Contempt is criticism supercharged
because it takes a one-up position of
superiority.
When people have contempt,
they are expressing their discontent by utilizing shame and mean-spirited
sarcasm to put someone down.
You can notice contempt on someone's face when they move one side of their face up-think of it as a "half disgust" face.
from : Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, is a Philadelphia-based marriage and family therapist, certified Gottman therapist, and author of Want This To Work.