Being treated badly can lead to "meta-irritation," or being irritated about being irritated. We may recognize that dwelling on the incident is pointless, but we continue to do so. The harder we try to stop thinking about it, the more it creeps into our consciousness. Shift your perspective rather than fighting what your mind is doing. Take a half-step back and observe whatever you're thinking or feeling. Take note of how fascinating your experience is: the physical sensations in your body, the effects on your breathing, and the thoughts and fantasies that are running through your mind. Rather than completely identifying with the anger and rumination, keep an eye on them. To a large extent, your reactions have a life of their own. Hold all of them with curiosity and compassion. Let them come along for the ride as you go about your business.
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Brilliant tips there for dealing with anger and irritation. Very simialr to mindfulness, which I find beneficial to hold negative emotions in focus long enough for them to dissipate.
Like you said
I find if possible, when I'm under the spell of some negative emotion like anger or frustration returning to my breathing is really helpful in getting a little distance between myself and the emotion.
Thanks for sharing these excellent tips which can come in hand for a variety of issues. Really helpful post. 😁